6. The Loyalist

Immediately after this, Jesus insisted that his disciples get back into the boat and cross to the other side of the lake, while he sent the people home. After sending them home, he went up into the hills by himself to pray. Night fell while he was there alone. Meanwhile, the disciples were in trouble far away from land, for a strong wind had risen, and they were fighting heavy waves. About three o’clock in the morning Jesus came toward them, walking on the water. When the disciples saw him walking on the water, they were terrified. In their fear, they cried out, “It’s a ghost!” But Jesus spoke to them at once. “Don’t be afraid,” he said. “Take courage. I am here!” Then Peter called to him, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.” “Yes, come,” Jesus said. So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he saw the strong wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted. Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,” Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?” When they climbed back into the boat, the wind stopped. Then the disciples worshiped him. “You really are the Son of God!” they exclaimed. MATTHEW 14:22-33 NLT

The Loyalist reflects God’s faithfulness

Basic motivation of the Loyalist is to be safe and avoid risk

When Healthy

Able to determine character in the people they encounter
Are reliable, loyal, trustworthy, compassionate and good planners
Desire to see the world as a safer place

When Unhealthy

See only potential risk and danger
Life is dictated by fear and anxiety
Don’t trust people, causing them to avoid new experiences and sabotage relationships

Core Sin: Fear

The healthy Loyalist is always in pursuit of courage and trusting God, themselves and eventually others.

How the Six Needs to be Real:

With Self

…Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don’t be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you. 1 CHRONICLES 28:20 NLT

With God

This I declare about the LORD: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; he is my God, and I trust him. PSALM 91:2 NLT

With Others

Never let loyalty and kindness leave you! Tie them around your neck as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart. Then you will find favor with both God and people, and you will earn a good reputation. PROVERBS 3:3-4 NLT

How to love a Six

  1. Be secure and consistent – tell the truth
  2. Thank them for their loyalty to you
  3. Encourage them to be courageous
  4. Fiercely support them when they are right
  5. Lovingly correct them when they are paranoid

Prayer for the 6

God, help me to be faithful to you. Help me to trust you even when people who speak for you are not trustworthy. Help me to take courage everyday. Help me to rest in your power and to trust in your goodness.

Community Group Discussion Guide

  1. We all struggle with some level of fear, how big of a role does fear play in how you live your day to day life?
  2. Fear kept Peter from doing something miraculous. What are some of things fear might be keeping you from doing?
  3. Read Matthew 14:27. If Jesus is the source of our courage, where does your faith in him need to grow so that he can help you choose courage in the face of fear?
  4. Read Psalm 91:2. In what ways does your relationship and trust in God help you in your struggle against fear?
  5. Read 1 Chronicles 28:20. What are some practical things you can do to practice courage in order to conquer your fears?
  6. Read Proverbs 3:3-4. In what ways has the loyalty of the people in your group been a gift to you?
  7. In what practical ways can you love and care for the people with high six gifiting in your group?

Personal Reflection Guide

Find a quiet place where you can be alone with God. Imagine that you are sitting with Peter in the boat in the midst of the storm. Imagine how you would feel, anxious, fearful, trying to keep the boat from capsizing and in seeing a lone figure walking through the waves towards you. Now pause with Peter in the moment when he realizes that it’s Jesus. What do you think happened in him when he suddenly moves him from his experience of danger to be daring; where in an instant Peter perceived it to be safer to step out of the boat, onto the stormy waves and begin to walk towards Jesus? Sit with God for a few moments and allow yourself to reflect on what the experience would be like for you to see what you fear and what you desire in this same way. What does it look like for you to move out of your boat that is being battered with fear in order to walk through the storm to move towards Jesus? As you move through your week, allow your anxieties and fears move you towards Jesus.

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